Tuesday, 5 May 2015
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to sleep way past bedtime, waking up with just a few moments to spare. A
child leaves his notebook in school and must scramble to find a friend
whose fax machine is working. Nights spent struggling over homework for
hours, studying for tests left for the last minute, assignments
forgotten, cliques and social politics – it feels as if we are going
backwards instead of forward.
How can we make this year different from all the others? How can we
take our hopes and wishes for positive change and turn them into a
reality?
Transition between summer and school can be difficult for children –
and for parents. Any change in life can bring nervousness, worry, and
irritability. Children often have a hard time adjusting to new
situations, unfamiliar teachers, and the more rigid schedule needed
during the school year. When feeling overwhelmed, our kids may express
their emotions through becoming argumentative, fighting more often with
siblings, or withdrawing into themselves. And parents can find it
difficult to keep calm and not lose themselves in anger when things
don't go right.
Instead of just accepting that this is the way our home is meant to
be, let us think about reachable goals that we can work on. When we
create a plan, we can do away with unnecessary failures and strive to
help our children feel and be more successful.
but we get distracted. We are all very busy, it’s true. We have great
pressures and responsibilities pulling us in too many directions. The
child who seems a little ‘off’, not himself, snappy or more quiet than
usual is trying to tell us something. But it is easy to tuck this
information away in a back pocket and only realize that something is
wrong when a crisis occurs. We then think back and recognize that the
signs were there, we were just too preoccupied to pay attention.
Don’t allow problems with your child to fester and grow. Open your
eyes and observe if a child seems sad, withdrawn, distant, more moody
than usual, or angry. Recognize if there seems to be greater
confrontation between this child and siblings, if friends stop calling
or coming over, or if the child can’t seem to find his place in school.
Because before you know it, half the year can go by and what could have
been a small problem has now become a ‘situation’ that requires major
time and investment and causes terrible aggravation.
hour.’ Many parents feel as if teachers are their opponents and don't
realize that we are are all here to try and help our children grow in
the best way possible. If you think that there may be an issue, it is a
good idea to set up a meeting with the teacher and ask how you can work
in harmony. Too many parents call teachers to demand and accuse instead
of saying that we would like to solve this problem together. Before
going to the principal with a complaint, see if you can first diffuse
the situation.
If there are any special concerns going on in your home, do not wait
for the teacher to find out through your child’s acting up in class or
failure to keep up with schoolwork and poor grades.
When a grandparent falls ill, if there is a health issue, financial
stress, marital upheaval, problems with siblings, or any other factor
that may affect your child’s academic or social success, it would be
wise to enlist your child’s teacher as your confidential ally and gain
her/his understanding. You can believe that most teachers would go the
extra mile and extend to your child an open heart.
academically, but also socially. School is not simply about getting
straight A’s, it is also about learning how to get on with others and
knowing how to develop friendships. A child who is happy in school is a
child who can focus on studying and doing well. He wants to be there and
be a part of things. One who believes that school is all about
academics and no social life unfortunately makes a big mistake.
We begin the
school year with blank notebooks, pages fresh and clean. Backpacks are
free of crumbs and leaked box drinks. Children wake up early in
anticipation. We try to get to school a bit before the morning bell and
start the year off on the right track.
But slowly the familiar patterns start to appear. The kids are going school year with blank notebooks, pages fresh and clean. Backpacks are
free of crumbs and leaked box drinks. Children wake up early in
anticipation. We try to get to school a bit before the morning bell and
start the year off on the right track.
to sleep way past bedtime, waking up with just a few moments to spare. A
child leaves his notebook in school and must scramble to find a friend
whose fax machine is working. Nights spent struggling over homework for
hours, studying for tests left for the last minute, assignments
forgotten, cliques and social politics – it feels as if we are going
backwards instead of forward.
How can we make this year different from all the others? How can we
take our hopes and wishes for positive change and turn them into a
reality?
Transition between summer and school can be difficult for children –
and for parents. Any change in life can bring nervousness, worry, and
irritability. Children often have a hard time adjusting to new
situations, unfamiliar teachers, and the more rigid schedule needed
during the school year. When feeling overwhelmed, our kids may express
their emotions through becoming argumentative, fighting more often with
siblings, or withdrawing into themselves. And parents can find it
difficult to keep calm and not lose themselves in anger when things
don't go right.
Instead of just accepting that this is the way our home is meant to
be, let us think about reachable goals that we can work on. When we
create a plan, we can do away with unnecessary failures and strive to
help our children feel and be more successful.
My 5 Parenting Goals
1. Keep My Eyes Open
Sometimes we notice that something does not feel right with a child but we get distracted. We are all very busy, it’s true. We have great
pressures and responsibilities pulling us in too many directions. The
child who seems a little ‘off’, not himself, snappy or more quiet than
usual is trying to tell us something. But it is easy to tuck this
information away in a back pocket and only realize that something is
wrong when a crisis occurs. We then think back and recognize that the
signs were there, we were just too preoccupied to pay attention.
Don’t allow problems with your child to fester and grow. Open your
eyes and observe if a child seems sad, withdrawn, distant, more moody
than usual, or angry. Recognize if there seems to be greater
confrontation between this child and siblings, if friends stop calling
or coming over, or if the child can’t seem to find his place in school.
Because before you know it, half the year can go by and what could have
been a small problem has now become a ‘situation’ that requires major
time and investment and causes terrible aggravation.
2. Develop a Working Relationship with Teachers
Reach out to your child’s teachers before your child reaches ‘zero hour.’ Many parents feel as if teachers are their opponents and don't
realize that we are are all here to try and help our children grow in
the best way possible. If you think that there may be an issue, it is a
good idea to set up a meeting with the teacher and ask how you can work
in harmony. Too many parents call teachers to demand and accuse instead
of saying that we would like to solve this problem together. Before
going to the principal with a complaint, see if you can first diffuse
the situation.
If there are any special concerns going on in your home, do not wait
for the teacher to find out through your child’s acting up in class or
failure to keep up with schoolwork and poor grades.
When a grandparent falls ill, if there is a health issue, financial
stress, marital upheaval, problems with siblings, or any other factor
that may affect your child’s academic or social success, it would be
wise to enlist your child’s teacher as your confidential ally and gain
her/his understanding. You can believe that most teachers would go the
extra mile and extend to your child an open heart.
3. Work on Social Skills
Help your child be successful this year by preparing him not just academically, but also socially. School is not simply about getting
straight A’s, it is also about learning how to get on with others and
knowing how to develop friendships. A child who is happy in school is a
child who can focus on studying and doing well. He wants to be there and
be a part of things. One who believes that school is all about
academics and no social life unfortunately makes a big mistake.
Roots of love:
1. Sir Richard Branson, entrepreneur
My mother, Eve, always taught me never to look back in regret but to
move on to the next thing. A setback is never a bad experience, just
another one of life’s lessons.
2. Lionel Shriver, author
Sage advice from my old friend Ruth Dudley Edwards is “Get on with it”,
a sound approach to everything. If you have the leisure to think about
it, you have time to do it.
3. Esther Rantzen, journalist and founder of ChildLine
I like this 2,000 year old advice by Rabbi Hillel: “If I am not for me,
who will be? If I am only for me, what am I? If not now, when?” I think
it means: “Sort yourself out, protect yourself and ensure your own
survival – if you don’t, you can achieve nothing. However, selfishness
is empty, so ensure that you make a positive difference to others, and
do it now.”
4. Cliff Richard, singer
When I was getting serious about singing, my father told me that if I
didn’t make it there was still a life to be lived. Then, when I recorded
Move It, he asked me: “Do you really want this? If you do then give it
your all and give it all the time.”
5. Jilly Cooper, author
My darling grandmother told me: “Whenever you meet anybody, look for
something nice to say about them, because even if they’ve got a hideous
face they might have fantastic ankles or lovely hair, and compliments do
cheer people up enormously.” She did cheer people up and I always
wanted to emulate her.
6. Gordon Ramsay, chef
Put your head down and work hard. Never wait for things to happen, make
them happen for yourself through hard graft and not giving up.
7. Michael Vaughan, former England cricket captain
Darren Lehmann, a team-mate of mine at Yorkshire, told me to make sure I
ended my career with no regrets. He meant “don’t die wondering”. I took
that attitude into Strictly Come Dancing.
8. Antonia Fraser, historian
A very old Marquess once said to me: “No gentleman is ever rude by
mistake.” This seems to me a profound observation about the need for
courtesy and consideration to all people at all times. Unless, of
course, you have good reason for anger, in which case go for it.
9. Prue Leith, cookery writer and author
On clothing: if it doesn’t go in, it can’t go on. I seem to remember it was given to me by an irritatingly flab-free fella.
10. Brian Moore, former England rugby player and Telegraph columnist
An admonishment from Mr Hoyle, my English teacher: “Moore, there are
two sorts of people in life, those that do and those that sit on the
sidelines and snigger. Do I have to tell you which one is more worthy?”
11. Nic Fiddian Green, sculptor
Gandhi said: “Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.”
12. Jo Malone, entrepreneur
Launching my new business, Jo Loves, I chose four key words as my guiding principles: Inspire, Innovate, Ignite, Integrity.
13. Mary Riddell, Telegraph journalist
“Make sure you marry someone who can cook,” from my father who could boil neither a kettle nor an egg.
14. Stephen Bayley, author, design guru
I have three favourites: 1. The old Foreign Office directive: never
tell a lie but never tell the whole truth, and never miss an opportunity
to go to the lavatory. 2. From Henry David Thoreau: “Beware of all
enterprises requiring new clothes.” 3. From Jay McInerney: “Treat
everyone you meet as if you have secret information that they are about
to become extremely rich”.
15. Matthew Williamson, designer
My co-founder and CEO, Joseph Velosa, said to me years ago: “If you
don’t have passion, then you have nothing. If you don’t believe in what
you are doing, why would anyone else?”
16. Max Sinclair, English Heritage Angel Awards winner
For National Service I was desperate to join the RAF, but my father
advised me to join the Royal Engineers where I’d learn a skill instead. I
have no regrets.
17. Alice Arnold, Radio 4 newsreader
When one door closes, it’s shut!
18. Steve Cram, former Olympic athlete
Apart from: “Never leave the bar first because everyone will talk about
you,” the best bit of advice I got was from my coach, aged 14. He said I
would never achieve anything if I hadn’t already thought that I could.
It worked.
19. Joan Bakewell, journalist
When someone annoys you, just imagine them naked. You’ll feel their equal.
20. Camila Batmanghelidjh, charity leader
You’re not that important; it’s what you do that counts.
21. Alex Crawford, Sky News correspondent
Harry S Truman said: “The best way to give advice to your children is to find out what they want and advise them to do it.”
22. Baroness Tanni Grey-Thompson, Paralympic athlete
My grandfather used to say: “Aim high, even if you hit a cabbage.” It is about having a goal or a dream and never giving up.
23. Daniel Galvin, hair colourist
My mother told me: “The sky’s the limit; it’s there for the taking. But you’ve got to go and get it.”
24. Deborah Moggach, author
“Everything matters, but nothing matters that much.” I read this
somewhere, and love it because it strikes just the right balance.
25. Edwina Currie, former MP
A favourite teacher wrote this, from Hamlet, in my autograph book as I
left school in Liverpool: “This above all: to thine own self be true.
And it follows, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to
any man”.
26. Peter Florence, director of the Hay Festival
My father’s advice to me was that people in rural Wales have the same
cultural expectations and aspirations as people in Manhattan or Sydney
or Paris.
27. Bel Mooney, journalist and writer
Once I was miserable over a nasty book review and my great friend
Bernard Levin told me: “Darling girl, you have to imagine yourself
floating high in the sky above them all.”
28. Sir Roy Strong, art historian
Never be seduced by any position you hold and always be first and
foremost yourself. Jobs come and go but you go on. My then flatmate,
Michael Borrie, told me that when I was appointed director of the
National Portrait Gallery, at the tender age of 31, in 1967.
29. Victoria Moore, Telegraph wine writer
You always have more options than you think you have. Every time I feel
stuck or trapped I remember this, take my time, and reformulate my
plans.
30. Fern Britton, TV presenter
My mother always said: “It is never your extravagances you regret, it is only your economies.”
31. Richard Madeley, TV presenter
Passed on to me by the playwright John Mortimer, who received it in turn from his father: “All advice is useless.”
32. Doreen Lawrence, mother of Stephen, campaigner and writer
The best advice I have been given, especially since January when my
son’s killers were sentenced, is: “Your strength and courage is admired
by many. Keep up the good work.”
33. Xanthe Clay, Telegraph food columnist
I once put out a request for dinner party tips in Weekend. Among the
(excellent) replies was one that stood out: “Don’t get tipsy till the
cheese course.”
34. Ann Widdecombe, former MP
I always tell the young not to be in so much of a hurry. Life is a marathon, not a sprint.
35. Jon Snow, journalist and presenter
My first foreign editor at ITN, John Mahoney, told me: “Never touch
anyone 'on camera’, and never be seen on television carrying a baby or
an animal.” I broke his rule during Hurricane Katrina in New Orleans. We
were almost alone in having a flat-bottomed boat and I found myself
carrying a heart attack victim into it. I told my cameraman to focus on
the old man, and not on me, in case Mr Mahoney was watching.
36. Lisa Armstrong, Telegraph fashion editor
My mother taught me how to remain sane when faced with the implacable
logic of small children: always give them choice, but controlled choice
with inbuilt distraction. Not “would you like to eat your vegetables?”
but “would you like to eat your vegetables from a green or a yellow
plate?” Worked like a charm.
37. Amanda Holden, actress and presenter
“One’s only ambition in life should be to be happy. Nothing else matters”, from my husband, Chris.
38. Dominic Dromgoole, artistic director of Shakespeare’s Globe
My mother once said to me before an interview: “Be confident and not
arrogant, and don’t be arrogant and unconfident”, which just about hit
the nail on the head with me.
39. Mary Keen, garden designer
My tutor at Oxford told me to: “Sleep for 8 hours, work for 8 hours,
play for 8 hours.” I didn’t, and my work-life balance would be better if
I had.
40. Michael Caines, head chef at Gidleigh Park hotel
“Take criticism constructively, not personally and see it as an
opportunity to improve yourself,” from Bill Heads, my lecturer at Exeter
College.
41. Goran Ivanisevic, former Wimbledon champion
Never give up, because if you keep believing and trying, anything can happen.
42. Edith Bowman, Radio 1 DJ
My mother Eleanor said: “What’s meant for you won’t pass you by.” It reminds me not to take decisions by others personally.
43. Robin Page, Telegraph columnist
My geography master told me: “When people tell you that there are two
sides to every argument, it is nonsense. There are three: your side,
their side and the truth.”
44. Tim Rice, lyricist and author
My mum, circa 1955, told me: “Make new friends but stick to old, one is silver, the other gold”.
45. Julian Fellowes, actor and writer
The best piece of advice I ever received was from my mother: “If you
want to be happily married, marry a happy person.” I am glad to say I
took her at her word.
46. Jack Straw, former Home and Foreign Secretary
When Barbara Castle was appointed Secretary of State for Health and
Social Security, after Labour unexpectedly won the 1974 General
Election, she asked me, then a barrister who knew nothing about health
or social security, to be her special adviser. My head of chambers at
the time, Sir Edward Gardner MP, asked me: “In 20 years’ time, would you
rather be in the British Cabinet or a High Court judge?” I replied “the
Cabinet”, which eventually led to my becoming Barbara’s successor as MP
for Blackburn.
47. Hannah Betts, journalist
My psychiatrist father always told me to “face my fear”. It has
instilled me with a lifelong sense that pluck is all, which, Britishly, I
feel it is.
48. Peter Barron, head of external relations for Google
All the best advice I received was from my father, and I even took some
of it. My favourite is: “The man who never made a mistake never made
anything.”
49. Mark Hedges, editor of Country Life
Michael Clayton, a former editor of Horse & Hound magazine, once
said to me: “Fall off as often as possible, your hosts will love you for
it.” It proved both tremendous advice and, with my riding skills, easy
to achieve.
50. Ai Weiwei, artist
Not
many people give me advice, but the most memorable came from a police
officer when I was released from the 81-day detention in June 2011. He
said: “If you work hard, you can become a good artist.” It has inspired
me to work harder to become a good activist.
51. James Corden, actor
The difference between doing something and not doing something is doing
something. So just do it. Oh, and try not to take yourself too
seriously, it’s just not cool.
52. Ed Victor, literary agent
Nigel Nicolson, MP in the Fifties, said of public speaking: “Always
know exactly what you are going to say. Never know how you are going to
say it.” Since then I have never had a problem giving a speech.
53. Michael Gove, Secretary of State for education
Since tonic is at least half, if not two-thirds, of a gin and tonic, make sure you choose the right tonic.
54. Marcus Armytage, former Grand National winner and Telegraph columnist
The three good bits of advice I’ve been given are all don’ts: don’t do
drugs, don’t join the Moonies, and, from my father: “Don’t hit your
horse until you reach the Elbow at Aintree in the 1990 Grand National.” I
followed all three with, I hope, more than satisfactory results.
55. Robert Bathurst, actor
When Bob Spiers was directing a Nineties sitcom I did, Joking Apart, he
only ever gave me one piece of direction: “Make it funny.” It’s all you
need to know.
56. Bobbi Brown, make-up artist
The author Liz Murray said: “If you go through things where you feel
like you’re in a dark place, you are not alone. You can change your
life. In fact, you can transform your life.” This statement made me
realise that no matter what challenges you face, you can overcome them.
57. Phil Spencer, TV presenter
My father used to say: “If you can’t be good, then don’t get caught.”
58. Nicholas Coleridge, president of Condé Nast and author
Make sure you have four good friends: one more handsome, one uglier,
one richer and one poorer than yourself. That way you experience perfect
contentment and humility.
59. Charlie Gilkes, nightclub impresario
My headmaster used to say: “If you don’t say something like you believe in it, how can you expect others to believe in it?”
60. Christopher Warren-Green, director of the London Chamber Orchestra
“If you feel as if you’re falling off a cliff, remember we can sprout
wings and fly,” from Margaret Hubicki, harmony professor at the Royal
Academy of Music.
61. Rachel Khoo, cookery presenter and writer
My mother still tells me to “sleep on it” if I have any dilemmas. A night’s sleep puts things in perspective.
62. Christine Hamilton, public speaker
My father used to say: “There are no stumbling blocks in life – just stepping stones in disguise.”
63. Harriet Cass, Radio 4 newsreader
When you look back on your life, you will regret only what you didn’t do. If you’re unsure, ask yourself “why not?”
64. Irma Kurtz, advice columnist
My father used to tell me: “Keep still, Irma, and listen!” Let others
speak without interruption to hear more than you expected and sometimes
more than they meant to tell you.”
65. Helen Glover, Olympic rower
When I was 13 my athletics coach, Peter Meredith, wrote “carpe diem” in
my birthday card. Ever since, “seize the day” has been something I try
to bring into daily life.
66. Matthew Norman, Telegraph columnist
“Have a think about another career,” from a tutor on the solicitors’
conversion course I found myself on after applying for what I had
thought was a course for prospective barristers.
67. Andrew Lloyd Webber, composer, theatre director
The legendary theatre producer Hal Prince once said: “You can’t listen
to a musical if you can’t look at it.” However good the music may be,
the show won’t work if the design doesn’t fit.
68. Sir Terry Pratchett, author
The author John Brunner once told me: “Remember nearly everything you are using to write a book is tax deductible.”
69. Lizzie Armitstead, Olympic cyclist
My coach Phil West told me: “Don’t believe your own hype,” reminding me to keep my feet firmly on the ground.
70. Arianna Huffington, author
My mother gave me something better than advice: a sense of
unconditional loving. This meant that as I was going for my dreams, I
knew that if I failed she wouldn’t love me any less.
71. Alan Hansen, former Liverpool player and Match of the Day commentator
My manager at Liverpool, Bob Paisley, had a go at our defence after a
game once and said I was the only person to have played well. He then
dropped me for the next game and I didn’t understand why. He told me
that it was all about experience, and your knowledge makes you a better
player over time. He was right.
72. Simon Mayo, Radio 2 presenter
“Respect the women in the house”, “The easier day is never coming” and
“Quality time is a myth”. These are all from The Sixty Minute Father by
Rob Parsons, and are invaluable and true. Accept no disrespect to
sisters or mother, assume that you’ll always be this busy and you only
get quality time by putting in the hours.
73. Sarah Gristwood, historian and royal commentator
On a film location once I wound up confiding to Anthony Hopkins my
dreams for the future. He shook his head and told me not just to dream,
but to “do it”.
74. Colin Jackson, former sprint and hurdles athlete
Daley Thompson said: “You will never be great on your own, you need to be able to work with people.”
75. Skye Gyngell, chef
From a bumper sticker given to me by a surf shop in Bondi: “Do what you love and love what you do.”
76. Paul Smith, fashion designer
Always give yourself time to think, particularly before you answer an important question.
77. Gretchen Rubin, self-help author
Years ago, after I got a promotion, I asked my boss for any words of
wisdom in my new job. She told me: “Be polite and be fair.” That short
phrase covers a lot of situations.
78. Richard Dunwoody, former Champion jockey
One of my trainers once told me: “When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.”
79. Charles Moore, Telegraph columnist
Alan Watkins, the late, great political journalist, once told me that:
“Half-an-hour with Who’s Who is never wasted.” He is right, because a
fact about one person mysteriously joins up with a fact about another.
Who’s Who tells you what’s what.
80. Santa Sebag Montefiore, author
When we were skiing in Klosters my father would say “It’s sunny at the
top”, before heading up the mountain in thick fog. He meant “be
positive”, and always be grateful for what you have.
81. Chris Larkin, actor
“Always strive to be a better man.” Kiplingesque words given to me by my stepfather, Bev.
82. Sandi Toksvig, comedian and presenter
My father gave me three excellent pieces of advice: 1. Never trust a
man in a ready-made bow tie. A man who cannot concentrate long enough to
fasten a bow tie is never going to be a well of nuanced or intriguing
conversation. 2. One Vodka Martini is not enough, two is plenty and
three is too many. 3. Live your life with passion, or there is no point.
You might as well drink three Vodka Martinis with a man sporting
clip-on neckwear.
83. Geoff Boycott, cricketer
I took Uncle Algy’s advice: “When two people get involved in a run-out,
one of them is going to be very disappointed. Make sure it’s not you.”
84. Chemmy Alcott, Britain’s No 1 female downhill skier
A friend of mine, Eric Dunmore, said: “This injury is an opportunity”
when I broke my leg very badly in late 2010. To have someone look on the
flip side so positively when you are in a tough place really changed my
perception of being injured.
85. Ben Elliot, co-founder of Quintessentially Group
Both my parents always said: “Work hard and be nice to people.”
86. Matt Pritchett, Telegraph cartoonist
Advice from my grandmother: “Never grow old.”
87. John Mitchinson, head of research for QI
“Always walk towards the sound of gunfire.” The late Barbara Castle
told me this when I introduced her at a literary dinner along with
Jeffrey Archer. I’m pleased to say that as an orator, she wiped the
floor with Archer and this exhortation, which means if you think there’s
something wrong, there almost always is, is one I turn to pretty much
every day.
88. Sarah Beeny, property television presenter
I know it is nauseating but someone I used to work with taught me that positive things happen to positive people.
89. Nina Campbell, interior designer
If you feel like writing an explosive email or letter, write it, but
then save it as a draft or keep it in a drawer and revisit it the
following day. I find that usually I don’t send it.
90. Lady Annabel Goldsmith, writer and philanthropist
My grandmother, Edith Londonderry, told me to always try to remain
impartial in any family squabble and never to interfere or take sides in
a marriage.
91. Amelia Rope, chocolatier
Patrick Reeves, who co-founded sofa.com, taught me to: “Keep it simple.”
92. Brian Blessed, actor and explorer
“The greatest danger in life is to not take the adventure,” from Harry Dobson, one of my teachers.
93. George Carey, former Archbishop of Canterbury
On becoming Archbishop in 1991 a student of mine said: “George, power
changes people. Be yourself always. Your integrity is crucial to all you
stand for. Value and honour all people and laugh, often, at yourself
and the ridiculous antics of the Church.”
94. Annabel Croft, former professional tennis player, TV presenter
A TV producer once told me that the simplest questions were the best
ones, and that asking open questions makes people work harder at their
answer.
95. James Cracknell, Olympic rower
Abraham Lincoln said: “If I had eight hours to chop down a tree, I’d
spend six sharpening my axe”. No wonder he’s the only US President with a
statue in Parliament Square. It took me years to understand the value
of this but I genuinely try to abide by it.
96. Susan Hill, writer
If you don’t know what to do, do nothing.
97. Thea Green, founder of Nails Inc
Know what your competition is doing and never stop listening to the
customer. They are usually right. And remember that the best is yet to
come.
98. Viscount Linley, furniture maker
My father advised me to always strive to do better, learn from my
mistakes and aim for perfection. Within my business I encourage this and
am always asking: “is this the best of the best?”
99. Wendy Holden, author
One should always be slightly improbable.
100. Paddy Ashdown, Liberal Democrat politician
My father told me: “Never stop learning.”
101. Justin Webb, Radio 4 Today presenter
A cardiologist friend once told me: “Lifestyle changes don’t add up to much, mate, just take the pills and hope for the best.”
Many of those questioned also told us the advice they would most like
to pass on. Stephen Bayley, for example, would warn his children never
to cook in suede shoes. For many more answers see the arti
t doesn’t matter where the words of wisdom come from, we carry them with
us like a talisman. A tiny pebble of certainty in the shifting sands of
life. We still fall over, lose our way and get grit in our shoes. But
somehow being sure of a truth, no matter what it may be, gives us hope.
Happy New Year!
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The man who is attracted to women? Question is going on in the mind of many men, so many of the Web
sites and Bastard studies show that from which man has plenty of attractive qualities, wish you here the 50 most beloved recipe of women in a man:1 - clear and has a comfortable look, an eye showing the strongest evidence on the nature of the person and morals, they pronounce every tongue and do not need an interpreter, men speak with their eyes eloquent than talking with their tongues.2 - on the verge of life and confident of himself, self Confidence Index succeed When you are confident of yourself others will trust you, and then women themselves.3 - Height, man run more effective and attractive to women and provides them with a sense of safety and comfort, thus increasing the chance of finding a suitable partner for him, but the man short stature goes to compensation greater effort at work to prove its efficiency in front of the opposite sex, and if he can provide a sense of safety and comfort of the women will not ask for its length.4 - force structure and muscular, does not mean it to be in force for the players wrestling, women see men harmonic body is very attractive, with a choice of appropriate clothing5 - Blood lightness and fun, to accept women on fast fun guy humor, Fajita blood can solve problems by turning to the perky attitude, while hard man turning into a tragedy.6 - intelligence and ingenuity, "the man skillful in his work even with the Kings," how, if he was good with women? The woman tempted smart guy Able to speak and who can Horsehair and innovate in the style of the dialogue with the man's intelligence and reassure women and make them convinced men.
.7 - experience the nature of women, women love a man expert in nature because it does not force them to understand their nature break he knows that women do not break the emotional passion logic and the logic of forcing her to undergo, but came from her passion and accepted by the often contradictory.8 - wealth, money and wealth and power may compensate women for many shortcomings in a man, especially if he lacks emotion, it shows the strength and security and comfort and also gravity.9 - physical contact, touch is the strongest raises feelings of attraction and empties negative emotions, and physical contact is an important part of building the emotional and psychological health of couples woman loves her husband to continue with her physically at all times, not the time to practice intimacy just as do most men.10 - brave, brave man loves a woman and a man hates cowardly, because courage is embodied in the meaning and force protection.11 - attractive smile, smile attractive man shaking the hearts of women, have a strong influence on them and their beauty magician12 - the focus of the work, if women are able watching while working on a task, they often feel attracted towards you.13 - play a musical instrument, do you wonder why rock stars get the girls always? There are many reasons, but in the end the performers of musical instruments more attractive than others.14 - elegance, women creature cares about appearances, and like a man who cares about his appearance and show elegance and taste high, he should know that women are not like him, the man loves his mind while you love women in her heart and her eyes and ears, which are considered interest in appearance among the things that reflect his personality, while The man has neglected this aspect of himself.15 - deep voice, your voice says a lot about you because the effect of the sound of men over women is stronger than the effect of a woman's voice on the man's woman is able to infer many things by talking about how confident and how your culture and how good your style through your voice, in the sense that women have the ability to collect several information about you through what you hear, and this provides an opportunity for greater vulnerability.16 - smell of sweat, the smell of sweat is the man that makes women are attracted to him or fending him off, the smell of sweat very low level is very attractive to women. It raises a sense of excitement in women. However, do not go too far and make you smell foul. This repellent.17 - The leader of the dominant, to be a leader recipe is very attractive to women, they indicate the status and importance of social and decision-making, and women feel that the man should be the dominant naturally.18 - The man who loves children more attractive, a study showed that men who love children more attractive to women than men hormone testosterone, which highlights aspects of their manhood
19 - The man who shows interest, the man who cares about women emotionally and spiritually, even when women are not in need of such attention or even if you did not call him and who never forgets birthdays, the anniversary of the marriage is the number one guy in women.20 - man open to reasonable limits, an exclamation of men and women who do not get out of Shara is not that prohibits what Allah has permitted nor which analyzes what is forbidden by God.21 - positive, Perineum generally very attractive, if you can show them on the bright side of things and discuss the language of power and nice and adheres to the values and waive minor'll admire that.22 - generosity, generosity that plays a role in the promotion of gravity between the sexes,Character generosity in person contributes to increase its attractiveness and qualify to enter into relationships, especially women who Gravitated men who initiate the tender, unlike men who are not attracted to Available .
23 - nails, no longer of interest nails, hands and feet exclusively on women, but a lot of men heading toward care Fingernails both in terms of health or cosmetic to reflect the elegance of a private, man who cares fingernails attracts women24 - The length hair, most women do not tend to average length nor long hair on men. Women prefer if the man was the owner of a hair light that Barber completely. The story of the soldiers and Marines are popular among many women.25 - impurity hair, white hair will not hurt your appearance at all, on the contrary, majority of the women they see as a manifestation of gravity imparts a lot of magic. So we advise you to keep these white hairs you do not know how to think about women!26 - the first appearance of the beard and mustache or aspiring pal Dirty look, look attractive and is pointing to the majority of women, giving more masculinity and beauty on the face, especially if the skin is clear and free of allergies and acne.27 - teeth, teeth man is an important part of its appeal, and even if the guy was a beautiful yellow teeth with all his effort will go unheeded as that disclosed smile or smile in front of women.28 - His dark skin, most women tend to men with black partitions, because levitate them suggest masculinity, mystery and danger, the factors that evoke women generally!29 - romantic guy, women love to be appreciated by men and her feel that she loved, and the man does so romantic and romantic means used to show her that he thinks at all times, in addition to this is to feel free to express her feelings in front of a man Inserting it in its own way.30 - emotional, emotional superiority of men for the handsome and good-looking and suave manners in the choices women around the favorite man for marriage. Where a poll showed that 79% of women prefer emotional guy.31 - innocence, is not fun when you know everything, and I tried everything. A little bit of innocence is attractive because it makes you more human. There is always something you have not tried, and allow her to invite her to his knowledge and his attempt with you. Asked her advice would be good, too.32 - integrity, straight men dream of every girl and women living under the umbrella of a straight man know the taste of a paradise on earth.33 - sobriety, women love a man sober, trustworthy and Clam (except for).34 - jealousy, women love a man who envies them because they instinctively realize that jealousy guide and cherished love and attention, but not to increase the jealousy from the border and not turn to horror and under.35 - that loved for themselves, no matter how few women of education and culture in the love they have the sixth sense distinguish correctly between them from the likes of her money or her salary or Jah people or so and every woman her wish in life that loved the same man.36 - meet, it is the most important and supervised qualities you love women in men to feel that they live the life of a humanitarian in every sense of the word.37 - strong character, and strength of character are you interested in women in a man is not the (rude fellow) does not control the dictatorship but personal manhood integrated in a position to meet the challenges of the construction of the road ahead and impose the right, at the same time personal capable of love, tenderness and compassion and kindness in their positions.38 - insured, women prefer a man with no religious believer hyperbole, and the man in the religion that honors loved them, but did not love her no injustice, religion book about injustice, as it protects from falling into the vices.39 - magnanimity, the man Gallant who love women who believe that their relationship is not just a desire to get them but a relationship based on unconditional exchange to obtain versus woman alienated from the man researcher always gains and contrast, and tend to the man Gallant and Servants without waiting Vs.40 - candor, women do not prefer the man and the elusive mystery in their relationship with the man you love and frank with them from the beginning of the road.41 - Non-traditional, women are attracted to men always renewed and atypical in his clothing and behave in a manner different from his peers.42 - Man diplomat, women are attracted to men diplomat, who mastered the art of dealing with it and coming up with events and offers gifts and feel as worthy of his love and possession of his heart.43 - quick-witted, women prefer to be with a man who raises the mind thinking about another "dead".44 - hard, if you pursue your goals someone else to do so. This is very attractive because it shows that willpower is not enjoyed by a lot of men.45 - Confident himself, is a man who feels safe and confident in himself and his firm and is surrounded by an aura of power and authority in the relationship, and this man is not jealous of other people do not feel threatened because of her colleague at work or her former fiance or any other man.46 - selective, if you are selective, it means you are not a requirement and a great value, enough for many people to want you.47 - experience, maturity will be very exciting. If you know What to do they will appreciate it greatly.48 - to be a competitor, playing hard to get What is contained applies to women as it is for men. People want what they can not have, and if they had to work for something that will appreciate so much.49 - humility, no one likes condescension and pride overload. Humility is very attractive. There's nothing better than a girl know a good thing for you by a friend.50 - be yourself, man who Dost on Nature honors in the memory of women and do not forget, you should not try to pretend to be anything but yourself.
The man who is attracted to women? Question is going on in the mind of many men, so many of the Web
sites and Bastard studies show that from which man has plenty of attractive qualities, wish you here the 50 most beloved recipe of women in a man:1 - clear and has a comfortable look, an eye showing the strongest evidence on the nature of the person and morals, they pronounce every tongue and do not need an interpreter, men speak with their eyes eloquent than talking with their tongues.2 - on the verge of life and confident of himself, self Confidence Index succeed When you are confident of yourself others will trust you, and then women themselves.3 - Height, man run more effective and attractive to women and provides them with a sense of safety and comfort, thus increasing the chance of finding a suitable partner for him, but the man short stature goes to compensation greater effort at work to prove its efficiency in front of the opposite sex, and if he can provide a sense of safety and comfort of the women will not ask for its length.4 - force structure and muscular, does not mean it to be in force for the players wrestling, women see men harmonic body is very attractive, with a choice of appropriate clothing5 - Blood lightness and fun, to accept women on fast fun guy humor, Fajita blood can solve problems by turning to the perky attitude, while hard man turning into a tragedy.6 - intelligence and ingenuity, "the man skillful in his work even with the Kings," how, if he was good with women? The woman tempted smart guy Able to speak and who can Horsehair and innovate in the style of the dialogue with the man's intelligence and reassure women and make them convinced men.
.7 - experience the nature of women, women love a man expert in nature because it does not force them to understand their nature break he knows that women do not break the emotional passion logic and the logic of forcing her to undergo, but came from her passion and accepted by the often contradictory.8 - wealth, money and wealth and power may compensate women for many shortcomings in a man, especially if he lacks emotion, it shows the strength and security and comfort and also gravity.9 - physical contact, touch is the strongest raises feelings of attraction and empties negative emotions, and physical contact is an important part of building the emotional and psychological health of couples woman loves her husband to continue with her physically at all times, not the time to practice intimacy just as do most men.10 - brave, brave man loves a woman and a man hates cowardly, because courage is embodied in the meaning and force protection.11 - attractive smile, smile attractive man shaking the hearts of women, have a strong influence on them and their beauty magician12 - the focus of the work, if women are able watching while working on a task, they often feel attracted towards you.13 - play a musical instrument, do you wonder why rock stars get the girls always? There are many reasons, but in the end the performers of musical instruments more attractive than others.14 - elegance, women creature cares about appearances, and like a man who cares about his appearance and show elegance and taste high, he should know that women are not like him, the man loves his mind while you love women in her heart and her eyes and ears, which are considered interest in appearance among the things that reflect his personality, while The man has neglected this aspect of himself.15 - deep voice, your voice says a lot about you because the effect of the sound of men over women is stronger than the effect of a woman's voice on the man's woman is able to infer many things by talking about how confident and how your culture and how good your style through your voice, in the sense that women have the ability to collect several information about you through what you hear, and this provides an opportunity for greater vulnerability.16 - smell of sweat, the smell of sweat is the man that makes women are attracted to him or fending him off, the smell of sweat very low level is very attractive to women. It raises a sense of excitement in women. However, do not go too far and make you smell foul. This repellent.17 - The leader of the dominant, to be a leader recipe is very attractive to women, they indicate the status and importance of social and decision-making, and women feel that the man should be the dominant naturally.18 - The man who loves children more attractive, a study showed that men who love children more attractive to women than men hormone testosterone, which highlights aspects of their manhood
19 - The man who shows interest, the man who cares about women emotionally and spiritually, even when women are not in need of such attention or even if you did not call him and who never forgets birthdays, the anniversary of the marriage is the number one guy in women.20 - man open to reasonable limits, an exclamation of men and women who do not get out of Shara is not that prohibits what Allah has permitted nor which analyzes what is forbidden by God.21 - positive, Perineum generally very attractive, if you can show them on the bright side of things and discuss the language of power and nice and adheres to the values and waive minor'll admire that.22 - generosity, generosity that plays a role in the promotion of gravity between the sexes,Character generosity in person contributes to increase its attractiveness and qualify to enter into relationships, especially women who Gravitated men who initiate the tender, unlike men who are not attracted to Available .
23 - nails, no longer of interest nails, hands and feet exclusively on women, but a lot of men heading toward care Fingernails both in terms of health or cosmetic to reflect the elegance of a private, man who cares fingernails attracts women24 - The length hair, most women do not tend to average length nor long hair on men. Women prefer if the man was the owner of a hair light that Barber completely. The story of the soldiers and Marines are popular among many women.25 - impurity hair, white hair will not hurt your appearance at all, on the contrary, majority of the women they see as a manifestation of gravity imparts a lot of magic. So we advise you to keep these white hairs you do not know how to think about women!26 - the first appearance of the beard and mustache or aspiring pal Dirty look, look attractive and is pointing to the majority of women, giving more masculinity and beauty on the face, especially if the skin is clear and free of allergies and acne.27 - teeth, teeth man is an important part of its appeal, and even if the guy was a beautiful yellow teeth with all his effort will go unheeded as that disclosed smile or smile in front of women.28 - His dark skin, most women tend to men with black partitions, because levitate them suggest masculinity, mystery and danger, the factors that evoke women generally!29 - romantic guy, women love to be appreciated by men and her feel that she loved, and the man does so romantic and romantic means used to show her that he thinks at all times, in addition to this is to feel free to express her feelings in front of a man Inserting it in its own way.30 - emotional, emotional superiority of men for the handsome and good-looking and suave manners in the choices women around the favorite man for marriage. Where a poll showed that 79% of women prefer emotional guy.31 - innocence, is not fun when you know everything, and I tried everything. A little bit of innocence is attractive because it makes you more human. There is always something you have not tried, and allow her to invite her to his knowledge and his attempt with you. Asked her advice would be good, too.32 - integrity, straight men dream of every girl and women living under the umbrella of a straight man know the taste of a paradise on earth.33 - sobriety, women love a man sober, trustworthy and Clam (except for).34 - jealousy, women love a man who envies them because they instinctively realize that jealousy guide and cherished love and attention, but not to increase the jealousy from the border and not turn to horror and under.35 - that loved for themselves, no matter how few women of education and culture in the love they have the sixth sense distinguish correctly between them from the likes of her money or her salary or Jah people or so and every woman her wish in life that loved the same man.36 - meet, it is the most important and supervised qualities you love women in men to feel that they live the life of a humanitarian in every sense of the word.37 - strong character, and strength of character are you interested in women in a man is not the (rude fellow) does not control the dictatorship but personal manhood integrated in a position to meet the challenges of the construction of the road ahead and impose the right, at the same time personal capable of love, tenderness and compassion and kindness in their positions.38 - insured, women prefer a man with no religious believer hyperbole, and the man in the religion that honors loved them, but did not love her no injustice, religion book about injustice, as it protects from falling into the vices.39 - magnanimity, the man Gallant who love women who believe that their relationship is not just a desire to get them but a relationship based on unconditional exchange to obtain versus woman alienated from the man researcher always gains and contrast, and tend to the man Gallant and Servants without waiting Vs.40 - candor, women do not prefer the man and the elusive mystery in their relationship with the man you love and frank with them from the beginning of the road.41 - Non-traditional, women are attracted to men always renewed and atypical in his clothing and behave in a manner different from his peers.42 - Man diplomat, women are attracted to men diplomat, who mastered the art of dealing with it and coming up with events and offers gifts and feel as worthy of his love and possession of his heart.43 - quick-witted, women prefer to be with a man who raises the mind thinking about another "dead".44 - hard, if you pursue your goals someone else to do so. This is very attractive because it shows that willpower is not enjoyed by a lot of men.45 - Confident himself, is a man who feels safe and confident in himself and his firm and is surrounded by an aura of power and authority in the relationship, and this man is not jealous of other people do not feel threatened because of her colleague at work or her former fiance or any other man.46 - selective, if you are selective, it means you are not a requirement and a great value, enough for many people to want you.47 - experience, maturity will be very exciting. If you know What to do they will appreciate it greatly.48 - to be a competitor, playing hard to get What is contained applies to women as it is for men. People want what they can not have, and if they had to work for something that will appreciate so much.49 - humility, no one likes condescension and pride overload. Humility is very attractive. There's nothing better than a girl know a good thing for you by a friend.50 - be yourself, man who Dost on Nature honors in the memory of women and do not forget, you should not try to pretend to be anything but yourself.
Monday, 12 May 2014
أفضل أن تدفن الحب في قلبك من أن تعطيه لمن لا يستحق!
* أفضل أن تدفن الحب في قلبك من أن تعطيه لمن لا يستحق!
* أهم حقوق الإنسان: أن يخطيء!
* أنت تحب وهي تحب لأسباب أخري غير التي تعترف بها!
* الحب: ثقب في القلب لا تستطيع أن تصده!
* الحب: أكبر تعاسة للمرأة, أكبر تسلية للرجل!
* أنت في حاجة إلي أن تتعلم كيف تحب, ولست في حاجة إلي أن تتعلم كيف تكره!
* الزواج لا هو داء للمحبين ولا هو دواء لهم!
* الزواج هو أن تكون في حالة إغماء مستمر, فتري الشيطان ملاكا والملاك شيطانا!
* لم أعثر علي رجل أحب زوجته طوال الوقت, وحماته أي وقت!
* إذا أحببت فأنت تقول: أنا.. ولا تقول: هي.. وإنما تقول: نحن!
* من يزرع المودة يكسب الصداقة.. ومن يزرع الصداقة يكسب الحب!
* الحب والدين أقوي العواطف والعواصف إذا اضطرب أحدهما اضطرب الآخر!
* أنت لا تصف المرأة بأنها ثرثارة إذا كانت تتحدث عن جمالك ورجولتك!
* الاحترام هو الحب في ملابسه الرسمية, والحب هو الاحترام في ملابس السهرة!
* الزواج هو السجن الذي يدفع فيه النزلاء كل المصاريف!
* المرأة الطيبة تلهم الرجل, والذكية تسليه, والجميلة تمتعه.. ولكن العاشقة هي التي تكسب في النهاية!
* أصعب ما تحتفظ به من أسرار: رأيك في نفسك!
* لا أستطيع أن أقول إن الرجل أفضل من المرأة, وإنما ليس أسوأ منها!
* أنا أحترم الذي أخطأ لأنه حاول, ولا أحترم الذي لم يخطيء لأنه لم يحاول!
* أن تكون صريحا: غلطة عقوبتها ألا تجد لك صديقا!
* أهم حقوق الإنسان: أن يخطيء!
* أنت تحب وهي تحب لأسباب أخري غير التي تعترف بها!
* الحب: ثقب في القلب لا تستطيع أن تصده!
* الحب: أكبر تعاسة للمرأة, أكبر تسلية للرجل!
* أنت في حاجة إلي أن تتعلم كيف تحب, ولست في حاجة إلي أن تتعلم كيف تكره!
* الزواج لا هو داء للمحبين ولا هو دواء لهم!
* الزواج هو أن تكون في حالة إغماء مستمر, فتري الشيطان ملاكا والملاك شيطانا!
* لم أعثر علي رجل أحب زوجته طوال الوقت, وحماته أي وقت!
* إذا أحببت فأنت تقول: أنا.. ولا تقول: هي.. وإنما تقول: نحن!
* من يزرع المودة يكسب الصداقة.. ومن يزرع الصداقة يكسب الحب!
* الحب والدين أقوي العواطف والعواصف إذا اضطرب أحدهما اضطرب الآخر!
* أنت لا تصف المرأة بأنها ثرثارة إذا كانت تتحدث عن جمالك ورجولتك!
* الاحترام هو الحب في ملابسه الرسمية, والحب هو الاحترام في ملابس السهرة!
* الزواج هو السجن الذي يدفع فيه النزلاء كل المصاريف!
* المرأة الطيبة تلهم الرجل, والذكية تسليه, والجميلة تمتعه.. ولكن العاشقة هي التي تكسب في النهاية!
* أصعب ما تحتفظ به من أسرار: رأيك في نفسك!
* لا أستطيع أن أقول إن الرجل أفضل من المرأة, وإنما ليس أسوأ منها!
* أنا أحترم الذي أخطأ لأنه حاول, ولا أحترم الذي لم يخطيء لأنه لم يحاول!
* أن تكون صريحا: غلطة عقوبتها ألا تجد لك صديقا!
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